Dealing With Failure

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If you're on this site, it's because you're pretty damn familiar with the crushing weight of relapse, and how it can set you back mentally.

It took me a very long time (and I'm still working on it) to realize that a relapse is not a life sentence.  It's a speed bump.

You have to keep things in perspective in order to stay above water.

It sounds corny, but every day without porn is a win.  So, if you go 1 day, or 2 days, or 40 days without it, you've won that many times.  You've said no to yourself, that many times.  You've conquered the toughest enemy known to man - selfish desire.

Think of it like this - let's say you start fresh today, and go 7 days without porn.  On day 8 , you slip up.  You've had 7 clear headed, successful days that you can stand behind and be proud of.  It's fucking tough.  You have to take the victories where you can.

Pro Tip: I use a free app called Days Since.  (no affiliation)  It's a pretty basic tracker/counter app.  Completely free to ue.  I use it to track how many days clean I have